I know that I have been referencing the speakers I had the opportunity to hear at the conference I attended in Florida, but it’s just because of how inspiring they were! Today I want to reflect on the session with Gerald Jones, an international motivational speaker. The concept of his message was to affirm yourself. We all have voices in our heads. We all speak to ourselves. It doesn’t make us crazy, it makes us normal. Gerald Jones focused on making this voice in our heads affirmative, rather than condescending, pessimistic, and negative. Â He begins his sessions by getting the audience to say the following affirmation:
” I am not
who they say
I am.
I am great.
I am wonderful.
I am powerful.
And that’s what’s up.”
The first time that he gets the audience to repeat the affirmation they say it out loud in unison. The second time, everyone repeats the lines pointing to themselves. The final time, everyone turns to a person beside them and says the lines to their partner angrily, but wholeheartedly. This can sound kind of silly, but the more you tell yourself something, the more you begin to convince yourself of it. Saying something out loud increases its impact – both negative and positive.
So, how many times a day do you tell yourself that you are not good at something? That you don’t look good? That you would be a better person if something about you was different?
Think about where these standards and ideas come from. Society, especially media, plants these ideas in our mind of the right, or ideal, person we should be. We must be polite. We can’t talk about ourselves or boast. We need to be skinny. We need to have the newest fashion of clothes. We cannot be different. The source of the standards we hold ourselves to are blurry. We do not realize the subtle message we hold on to about body image, or personality traits.
In reality, if we all met this so called “ideal” the world would be pretty damn boring. There’s no reason that we should feel like we need to be what everyone else wants, or to believe that we are who everyone else says we are. In reality, most people have no idea of who we are.
As a part of being our own selves, we need to make sure to affirm all parts of who we are. Claim what you love, and do so proudly. Beginning to do this can be as easy as taking one word out of your vocabulary: not.
Think of all the things the voice in your head says you’re not. For me these have been ” I am not…
…a writer.
…a runner.
…an athlete.
…a yogi (not even sure if I’m using this term right)”
each time these things come to mind, I think of this:
It all goes back to comparing – don’t continually compare yourselves to other’s standard. You’re you, so completely and sincerely be you.
 “Words are not just ink on a piece of paper” – Gerald JonesÂ
Happy Monday 🙂